How To Boost Your Confidence and Handle Your Critics with Heather Monahan

Updated: Feb 20

I'm thrilled to introduce you to confidence expert, Heather Monahan!

Heather is a best-selling author, keynote speaker, TEDx speaker, host of the Creating Confidence podcast, and founder of Boss In Heels.

In today’s episode, Heather talks about how she navigated her way through corporate America for over 20 years and the challenges she faced along the way. Heather breaks down the fear that comes with becoming an author and dives into her two amazing books “Creating Confidence” and “Overcome Your Villans”. Her transformation from being fired to one of the Top 50 Keynote Speakers in the world is truly inspiring.

Whether you're navigating corporate America or just starting out in your career, these tips will help you stay strong and confident. So don't let criticism hold you back - learn how to deal with it like a boss!

Memorable Moments:

  • 0.00 Once you overcome your villains, it really opens up that door for positive people, positive opportunities, and blessings, like you said, to start showing up.

  • 4:35 Me dimming my light didn't ignite hers. Me playing small didn't make her feel better. In fact, she gained in strength and treated me worse.

  • 10:58 I will always be proud that I'm the woman who will be at her death bed saying, "Yeah, my first book has three mistakes in it, and I am so flipping proud it's out there." Done will always be better than perfect in my life.

  • 12:41 It's my job and duty in the world to make the world a brighter place, a better place, and if I'm going to withhold information and not do it, that's selfish and crappy.

  • 16:58 it's like practicing anything. The amount of frequency of doing something to truly become an expert, you've got to put that practice in and just get up and do it.

  • 18:39 A lot of people in your life love you and they want to protect you, but they're going to project their self-limiting beliefs on you. It's up to you to accept that, or thank them for it and hand it back to them.

I hope you LOVE the episode and pick up a copy of BOTH of her books. They're amazing!

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Loved the episode? Read the transcript below:

Heather Monahan:

Once you overcome your villains, it really opens up that door for positive people, positive opportunities, and blessings, like you said, to start showing up.

Allison Walsh:

Hello there, and welcome to the She Believed She Could Podcast. I'm your host, Allison Walsh. I am so glad you're here. I'm a corporate exec, entrepreneur, coach, and mom of three, who is obsessed with all things related to mindset, goal setting, and leveling up your personal brand so you can go after opportunities that you never even thought possible. I live by the philosophy that the whole point of being alive is to evolve into the complete person you were intended to be, and I created this podcast to motivate and inspire you, and give you actionable tips and advice for you to use as you chase and accomplish your goals.

Allison Walsh:

I've also had the chance to build an incredible network of successful leaders, entrepreneurs, impact makers, and world changers who will also be sharing knowledge and words of wisdom with you. Remember, no dream is too big if it's matched with ambition and action. Most importantly, I believe in you 1000%, and my goal is that you do too. So sit back, relax, and grab your favorite note taking device, because it's time to fill up your mind and soul with positive vibes and advice to help you achieve your dreams. Now, let's get to work.

Allison Walsh:

All right, ladies. I am so excited to introduce you to Heather Monahan. She is a bestselling author, she's got two amazing books out that you've got to pick up, if you haven't read them already. She's been named as a top 50 keynote speaker in the world. That's a huge honor. She's among some of the best of the best, the most elite speakers. She is the podcast host of Creating Confidence. She's graced the TEDx stage. And of course, she has launched her own business, really being able to help people create the confidence that they want for themselves, to be able to chase and accomplish every goal that they set their minds to. So I'm not going to take up too much of the time on the beginning of this episode, because this episode is packed full of valuable advice. Every word that she says is powerful and it is intended to help you become your best, most confident self. So let's get to work.

Allison Walsh:

All right. Well, Heather. I am so glad that you are on the show today. Would you mind introducing yourself to our audience?

Heather Monahan:

Sure. I'm still recovering from corporate America, I spent a little over two decades in corporate America. I started out as a salesperson, I became a VP of sales, and then ultimately a chief revenue officer. And then two weeks after being named one of the most influential women in radio, I was fired, and I took that opportunity to reinvent myself as an author and then a keynote speaker, and then a podcast host, and then a board member, and then... I don't know what else I did. I mean, I don't know. I've been doing a lot of crazy things the past couple of years, and here I am today.

Allison Walsh:

Well, I love it. I love how you've really leaned into your brand too. I think that you noticed the importance of that prior to even leaving corporate America, you were really starting to stand out and shine brightly on your own. I think that's a lot of what women want to do, but it takes bold, courageous action, and sometimes leads you in a windy path, but ultimately you're here now. So would you mind sharing a little bit more about that story, and really how you decided it was time to start really shining brightly as you?

Heather Monahan:

Yeah. For a while, and I personally believe that you can be confident in different areas of your life at different times and whatnot, and I had had times in business where I was really confident and felt good. But I went through a window of time when I was at the last company I was with, I was there for 14 years, where I started second guessing myself. I had someone who was side-by-side with me, it was the other woman in the C-suite, the CFO, always giving me disparaging looks, always putting me down, always trying to keep me out of meetings. Really sneaky kinds of... She never walked up and slapped me in the face and told me I was a jerk, right? That would've been easier, but it was just always trying to find a way to set me up, to see me fail. Even though we worked together, right?

Heather Monahan:

It was just so crazy, and I knew it, no one would talk about it, and I would try to bring it up sometimes. So it makes you start thinking you're crazy. You start feeling like, what, maybe this is me. Maybe I'm just a jerk. She's nice at everybody else. I don't get it. And so I really started losing my confidence and losing my way, thinking, okay, maybe I should dim my light a little bit. Maybe then she'll leave me alone. This woman handled the finances, so always my expense checks would be delayed. Like there was just always some BS going on. And so I tried that for a while. It didn't work right. Me dimming my light didn't ignite hers. Me playing small didn't make her feel better. In fact, she gained in strength and treated me worse.

Heather Monahan:

So ultimately, I just started really thinking about, okay, I'm showing up as a B rate version of myself at work. It's not helping me. I don't feel better. In fact, I feel worse and I'm literally second guessing everything I do. And that