How To Get Unstuck with Cynthia Garcia



 

Are you getting in your own way? Holding yourself back from achieving your DREAMS? Allowing your past to define you?


Queen, you deserve to thrive authentically and confidently as you evolve into your fullest self.

Cynthia Garcia shares her vulnerable past as a child of poverty, abuse, and addiction. Now a founder and CEO, Cynthia achieved the life of her dreams by rewriting story, and continues to inspire others to do the same. As the leading expert in the field of modern-day mindset, Cynthia is a trailblazer, leader, and inspiration born of her own personal history.


You are capable and deserving of achieving your greatest goals and wildest dreams...but you must be willing to explore uncomfortable change and do the work to make it happen.


Get inspired to rewrite those old stories and redefine your past, present, and future with me and Cynthia Garcia.


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Cynthia Garcia 00:00

Look at the things that have held you back. And then be willing to do the work to rewrite those old stories so that your past doesn't create your present, as well as your future. And that's where I come in.

Allison 00:18

Hello there and welcome to The She Believed She Could podcast. I'm your host Allison Walsh, I am so glad you're here. I'm a corporate exec, entrepreneur, coach and mom of three, who is obsessed with all things related to mindset, goal setting, and leveling up your personal brand so you can go after opportunities that you never even thought possible. I live by the philosophy that the whole point of being alive is to evolve into the complete person you were intended to be. And I created this podcast to motivate and inspire you and give you actionable tips and advice for you to use as you chase and accomplish your goals. I've also had the chance to build an incredible network of successful leaders, entrepreneurs, impact makers and world changers, who will also be sharing knowledge and words of wisdom with you. Remember, No dream is too big if it's matched with ambition and action. Most importantly, I believe in you 1,000% And my goal is that you do too. So sit back relax and grab your favorite note taking device because it's time to fill up your mind and soul with positive vibes and advice to help you achieve your dreams. Now let's get to work.


Hello there it's Alison and I want to invite you to my new masterclass the three things over committed women must know to enhance their happiness and gain clarity about their future. I know how much you pour into everyone else. And I understand completely how hard the last couple of years have been. But I want you to give yourself permission to learn more about how to identify your greatest opportunities for improvement. How to really understand right now what you can do to enhance the quality of your life every day, personally and professionally. And really start to feel like you're thriving again. Go to Allison Walsh consulting.com/masterclass to sign up right now or grab the link in the show notes. I'll see you soon.


Today's guest is Cynthia Garcia. She is a founder and CEO, Best Selling Author, media personality and celebrity coach. Growing up she was bullied relentlessly and was told she would never amount to anything. But after overcoming a dysfunctional childhood filled with crippling poverty, abuse, addiction and mental health issues, she went on to become one of the most successful coaches in the world. Today she inspires others to rewrite their stories by being an example of what was possible when she rewrote her own. Cynthia is the leading expert in the field of modern day mindset. In addition to being the founder and CEO of the Institute of Transformational Nutrition, she is also the CEO and founder of The Modern Life Coach School. She is a co founder of The Unicorn Club, a private organization where the world's most successful women leaders come to collaborate, connect and cultivate the confidence to not apologize for their greatness. She is a leader and an inspiration born of her own personal history. She is happily married and has two kids and lives in Los Angeles and Portland. Please welcome to the show, Cynthia Garcia. Well, Cynthia, thank you so much for being on our show today. Would you mind introducing yourself to our audience? Sure.

Cynthia Garcia 03:25

It is such a pleasure, Allison, thanks for having me. So my name is Cynthia Garcia, and I'm the founder and the CEO of the Institute of Transformational Nutrition, which is a health and nutrition coaching certification school. And I'm also the CEO and founder of The Modern Life Coach School where we certify modern day life coaches.

Allison 03:45

I love this. We have a lot of coaches in our community. So I know they're already like fangirling over you. I'm really excited to hear from you. So I wanted to take it a step back though, because you have really transformed your life and inspired so many other people to do the same. So would you mind giving us a little bit more of your background and where you come from?

Cynthia Garcia 04:05

For sure. Yeah. And can I just say I love coaches. I love coaches. They are my heart like it's coaches have saved my life, coaching saved my life. And I don't say that flippantly. It's true. So just to put that out there love coaches. And the second thing that you asked about was just my story. So I grew up in an insanely dysfunctional home as a child. My father was an alcoholic and drug addict. My mom was bipolar and had some mental health challenges of her own. And so it was really tough growing up, you know, I suffered all kinds of abuse, verbal, emotional, physical, sexual abuse, this started at the age of five, saw lots of just endured a lot of trauma. My father actually shot my mother in front of me. He shot at me, it was just just kind of the wild wild west in our homes, so I never quite I knew what to expect. And I always kind of walked around on eggshells trying to control the situation. Because if we can control it, we're safe, right? At least that's what we tell ourselves as children. And I ended up escaping through books. Allison, like just escaping through stories that I would find that would transport me to different lands and see new opportunities. Because, you know, I grew up in the southwestern tip of Virginia. So the Appalachian Mountains, coal mining, and I didn't see the worlds there, or the possibilities there that I found in these books. And so it gave me something to look forward to something to aspire to. And that was truly that lifeline that I had to hold on to, in order to get myself out of that situation I was in. So that's kind of how I grew up. I decided that this was not going to be my life, I decided that I would find a way out. I started working and saving money. At 14 years old, I finally got up enough saved to move to Los Angeles. It's funny, Alison, I went as far as I could get without leaving the country. Okay, I've hit the ocean, I need to stop. But here's the thing. I thought I thought I was so smart. Allison, I thought oh, my gosh, I did it. I did it. I got out like I am winning, Life is good. And I remember I drove out to the ocean. And I was sitting there and I'm watching the waves crash on the shore. And it's this beautiful set. And I just was like, Oh my gosh. And in that moment, I had such a heavy sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach. I felt nauseous. And I thought what is going on? Wait, I'm here, this is what I wanted. This is what. But I realized in that moment, that no matter where I went, there I was, I hadn't left anything behind. I just packed it all up and took it with me. And that put me on this downward spiral into, you know, the clubs of Los Angeles, the nightclub scene, I was working in the entertainment industry as a model and a television host. And that certainly didn't help. I was confronted with all of these, you know, body issues, developed an eating disorder, turn to drugs, alcohol, unhealthy things, hit rock bottom, decided that suicide was the only way out. And it was the night that I almost lost my life, that I found my way because I realized, in those that dark, desperate moment, gosh, what if this, all of these things haven't been happening just to punish me for something or just because I don't deserve? But what if they've been happening so that I could find a way through it and help other people just like me, right? People struggling just like me, people hurting just like me, people who've had these traumatic experiences, they've never been able to be able to overcome just like me, what if I could figure that out. And so that's why I say it was coaching that really saved my life. And that put me on the coaching path, I was able to really rewrite my old stories that were holding me back, resolve that trauma through doing so. And then script a new narrative of the life I wanted to create. And that's what essentially brings us here together today. So I know that was a bit long. But that's been the journey.

Allison 08:25

I appreciate your story so much. And I know so many of our listeners do too. And, you know, we you and I both share a lot of similarities. Yeah, the struggle, right. Like we found our passion through something that at the time felt like it was the absolute worst experience that we could be going through and asking yourself all of the whys. Why am I going through this? Why me? Why was this my story? Why why why right. And I think at some point, you have your rock bottom, you experienced it, I experienced it so many others do. Where you're forced to make a decision, like, is this going to define me for the rest of my life? Or is this going to be the fuel that catapults me to be able to number one, change my life, but also changed the lives of others. And you've been able to do this, you've done so many wonderful things, work with amazing clients, created your own way of doing things to which I always love a woman that creates her own lane. So like, Yes, I love it. But let's talk about now like what you help people do because you talked about your story, right? And you talked about the stories that we all tell ourselves, right? And that's so important. So can we just spend some time here because I think that there's so much value and wisdom that you can impart on our audience. And I would love for them to hear more about your advice when it comes to kind of rewriting that narrative and really taking ownership of the new story that we can write for ourselves.

Cynthia 09:48

Sure, sure. Well, I think the first step in doing that is to realize that you don't have to hit rock bottom. You know, you don't I mean, you and I both have had similar journeys where we really did come to this tipping point, some might call it a breaking point. And it's like, Okay, now that I'm here at rock bottom, what do I decide to do? But you don't have to do that, I want to be really clear on that. At any time, you can just say, I don't really like the direction my life is going, I think I'll change it, you can do that at any time. So I think that's the first step. The second step is being willing to, like, really look at what it is that you want, I think so often, we tend to look at other people's success or other people's definition of success. And we think, oh, gosh, I shouldn't I should want what Allison has, look at her, she's killing it, you know, look at she has this amazing life. She's this beautiful woman, she has this amazing business, this awesome community, I want that. But do you really? Or do you want it because you want the lifestyle that this this affords Allison, because if that's what it is, you can do it in a totally different way. So I think it's really important next, to get clear on what you want. The other thing from there, step number three, if you will, is to look at the things that have held you back. And then be willing to do the work to rewrite those old stories, so that your past doesn't create your present, as well as your future. And that's where I come in. So I really help people to rewrite these hidden stories that keep them stuck, so that they can become self made. I don't mean just money, but becoming the person, the woman, the man, the person that you want to be. And then creating a life and business if you choose. That's so juicy, you're only jealous of yourself, you know, those days of scrolling through the gram and being like, Ooh, I want what she has. I want you to do that for yourself. Right? There's this quote, and I don't know where it originated from, if anyone knows, let me know who to credit this to It wasn't me. But I'll paraphrase. It's something along the lines of on your Hell is the definition of hell. So Hell is on your last day on earth, the person that you became, meets the person you could have become. And I think about this every day, like literally every single day, and I want those people to be twins. Allison, I want us to be like, Oh, hey, I know you. I know you, right? I don't want them to not even know each other. And to be like, who are you? What, what did you do, right. And so I do this through a process called the Stuck Story coaching method. That's the primary method. And then there's others built in kind of around and underneath that. But that's essentially what I help people to do.

Allison