In today's episode, we're talking with Jessica Thiefels - a published author, host of Mindset, Reset Radio, CEO of Jessica Thiefels, and co-founder of Don't Ask How. She's been writing for more than 10 years and has been featured in top publications, including Forbes and Entrepreneur. She is republishing her book on Amazon next month – “10 questions that answer life's biggest questions” and she's on a mission to empower women to make their own rules and live with intention, so that they wake up every day excited about the life they get to live. And I am so excited for her to share some of her great words of wisdom with you all today.
Memorable Moments:
[00:04:15.11] Stop accepting the status quo. The status quo is meant to keep us on a certain track, doing what our parents wanted us to do or what we think we should do. Question the status quo, so we can really start to build that extraordinary life we really see for ourselves. Why do I need to work nine to five? Why do I need to work for someone else? Why can't I create my own business? You can!
[00:06:56.03] Don’t wait until something massive, traumatic, or terrible happens to make an important change in our life when we have the opportunity to do that all the time. Ask yourself that question constantly to make sure that you are living in your values and that you are moving towards what you want.
[00:09:34.24] Make your own rules. Surround yourself with people who are thinking these really big things because it reminds us that we can make our own rules. It's so easy to get stifled by people who are triggered by our ambition or too scared to dream big or make their own way. Take risks and be fearless.
[00:12:42.08] Live an empowered life and know that in the doing is how you're going to change your life.
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Jessica: So, it's like surround yourself with people who are thinking these really big things because it reminds you that we can make our own rules. It's so easy to get stifled by people who are triggered by our ambition or too scared to dream big or make their own way.
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[00:00:32.26] Allison:Hello and welcome to the She Believed She Could Podcast - I’m your host Allison Walsh. I am so glad you’re here! I’m a corporate exec, entrepreneur, coach, and mom of 3, who is obsessed with all things related to mindset, goal setting, and leveling up your personal brand so you can go after opportunities that you never even thought possible.
I live by the philosophy that the whole point of being alive is to evolve into the complete person you were intended to be, and I created this podcast to motivate and inspire you, and give you actionable tips and advice for you to use as you chase and accomplish your goals. I’ve also had the chance to build an incredible network of successful leaders, entrepreneurs, impact makers, and world-changers who will also be sharing knowledge and words of wisdom with you.
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I am so excited to introduce you to Jessica Thiefels. She is a published author, host of Mindset, Reset Radio, CEO of Jessica Thiefels, and co-founder of Don't Ask How. She's been writing for more than 10 years and has been featured in top publications, including Forbes and Entrepreneur. She's on a mission to empower women to make their own rules and live with intention, so they wake up every day excited about the life they get to live. And I am so pumped to have a conversation with her today. Enjoy, sit back, and relax. You know I'm going to tell you to grab that note taking device. She has a lot of great words of wisdom. So can't wait to share with you now. Alright, Jessica, thank you so much for being on the show today. Would you mind introducing yourself to our audience?
[00:02:06.09] Jessica: Sure. Thank you so much for having me. My name is Jessica Thiefels. I am multi-passionate, I've actually never said that, but like a multi-passionate entrepreneur, I'm forever trying to bring my two areas of focus, mindset, and marketing, together. So, I run a marketing consulting agency where I do consulting for larger B2B organizations and then coaching for small businesses and entrepreneurs, often female entrepreneurs. I'm a published author. I have a book on Amazon - 10 questions that answer life's biggest questions, but I'm actually re-publishing that hopefully in the next month, and I'm designing the new cover right now. So, stay tuned for that. And I have another book coming with an imprint that I'm working with, which is really exciting. And then I host a podcast as well, Mindset Reset Radio, which, I love, love, love hosting. It's such a great platform to be able to just dive into mindset in a way that's interesting to me, and so I know is interesting to others. Our goal is always to talk about mindset in a way that's a little different because there's so many buzzwords and typical things being said in the mindset world. So, I'm always looking for guests…which you are a guest, when this comes out, your episode will probably be live...who can bring something really unique and different to the conversation. So that's me. I live in Vermont with my husband who was my high school sweetheart. I'm pregnant. I'm seven months pregnant with my first child. Yeah.
[00:03:35.29] Allison: All the things. This is so exciting. Well, first of all, congratulations on your pregnancy and many blessings that it is smooth and easy. So that's an exciting stage of life for you. And yes, mindset is everything, right? Like I always have these conversations, I noticed, in so many walks of life, it's such an important thing to focus on, especially, I mean, it impacts every single thing that we do, right? And so, and I love that you really focus your energy here and I'm really excited to be able to check out your re-release of your book, that's very exciting and all about questions, right. And that was something that really piqued my interest. And so why should we be asking more questions?
[00:04:15.11] Jessica: Yeah. The biggest thing I want people to walk away from when I talk to them, when I share my communities, especially for my book, is stop accepting the status quo. The status quo is meant to keep us in a certain track, in a certain guide, doing what our parents wanted us to do or what we think so-and-so wants us to do. And when we ask questions and we question the status quo, we can really start to actually build that extraordinary life that we really see for ourselves, because we need to say the most basic form of this is why someone tells you to do something. Well, why? Why do I need to do it? Why do I need to work nine to five? Why do I need to work for someone else? Why can't I create my own business? Why isn't this possible for me? Why are my dreams too big? And you know, the list goes on. And in my book, when I republish it, it'll be the same questions, we're just building it out more. And I talk about 10 really powerful questions. So, like taking it from that, why to, would I be happy with how I spent the last six months if I died tomorrow? Like these really powerful questions that help us tune into what really matters to us and allow us to create our own life for ourselves.
[00:05:29.25] Allison: Well, it's so interesting that you mentioned that because over the weekend, I actually went to dinner with my husband. It was my birthday last week. So, we went to our favorite restaurant.
[00:05:39.17] Jessica: Happy birthday.
[00:05:40.21] Allison: Had our favorite waiter. We're sitting there and taking my last bite of my chocolate cake, the check comes, we're about to leave. And all of a sudden, the restaurant pulled everybody that was in the restaurant into the area that we were in, and they closed the curtains, and they said, there's a situation. And the police are clearing this area, everybody's got to get away from the windows. They quickly then, after that evacuated us and we found that it was a bomb threat. And I remember sitting there, it was just last weekend, going if this was it for me, did I live this life to the fullest? Did I really challenge myself? Did I show up fully every day? Did I contribute my fullest potential? So, when you said that it immediately brought me back to Saturday night because it's still so fresh, but I think that that is such a powerful question that we can ask ourselves and it doesn't have to be, just at the beginning of the new year or halfway through or quarterly goals. It's like, if I died today, this is it. Did I do everything I was here to do, so really powerful.
[00:06:46.22] Jessica: I like, first of all, I have goosebumps from that story because that's crazy. And I'm so grateful that you're safe and you guys too.
[00:06:53.28] Allison: Me too. God bless, right.
[00:06:56.03] Jessica: But the important thing I think that I want to point out in what you just said is it doesn't have be a moment like that to get you to ask that question. So often we wait until something massive and traumatic and terrible happens to make an important change in our life when we have the opportunity to do that all the time. And that's kind of the power of, like you're saying, don't wait until January 1st or whatever, do it all the time. Ask yourself that question constantly to make sure that you are living in your values, you are moving toward what you want. So, that story is crazy, but I like that point. Don't wait until that happens to ask that question.
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Allison: Did you know you have a story within you? Each of us do. My next question though, is, are you confident enough to tell it. Hey there, it's Allison, and I've been teaching people how to tell their stories for the last decade, but for so many people, the thought of sharing brings a lot of fear and overwhelm. And for a lot of folks, they'd rather just run away and hide, but that has to change, right? If you don't tell people what you do, how are you supposed to serve? That's exactly why I designed Your New Story Is Your Superpower, for the exact purpose to give you a framework that will build your confidence, that will allow you to amplify your impact by the words you're sharing and the structure that you're using to tell your story. And hopefully it'll monetize your message as well. This formula has been used by my clients for over a decade and I use it as well every time I'm given the opportunity to share my story. And it's a really easy go-to way for you to organize your thoughts and keep your audience engaged, wanting more. So, I hope you'll consider signing up for Your Story Is Your Superpower. And I can't wait to help you. Each lesson there is a video of me, as well as the workbook to complete. And by the end, you'll have an awesome framework that you can use each and every time. So, I hope you check it out and join us. Your Story Is Your Superpower so go to yoursuperpowerstory.com for more information. And I hope to see you in the course.
Absolutely. And you know, I think something you said when you were introducing yourself about being multi-passionate, I totally resonate with that. And I don't know if you're a fan of Marie Forleo, but she talks about being a multi-passionate entrepreneur and having so many different interests that interplay and overlap. And that's what makes us so unique, right? And like that's how we can really show up, is by allowing that uniqueness and all of these different interests to really come together and show up for us. And so can you talk a little bit more though because that really leads into something else, I wanted to talk to you about, about really not being afraid to make our own rules and to show up the way that we need to or in life and business, et cetera. So, can you talk a little bit more about that?
[00:09:34.24] Jessica: Yeah. I say that all the time, make your own rules. I think I've been a rule maker much of my life. I was always a little rebellious, I think, but yeah, I think in terms of the multi-passionate I think a lot of Instagram because that's my main community and I feel like I sometimes struggle because I want to be known for, let's say one specific thing, but really, I am super knowledgeable on a wider breadth of things. And I like talking about that. And so, it's this constant battle that we have to win with ourselves over boxing yourself in and to do that, to make your own rules, I think one of the best tips I can give is to surround yourself with people who are doing it too. Other multi-passionate entrepreneurs or go getters or dreamers who are dreaming. One of my big dreams is to...I don't even need to own the yacht, to rent a yacht and take my family and friends on it, and like go up and down the coast of Croatia. So, it is like, surround yourself with people who are thinking these really big things, because it reminds you that we can make our own rules. It's so easy to get stifled by people who are triggered by our ambition or too scared to dream big or make their own way.
[00:10:55.15] Allison: Well, I think for those of us that swing the other way, so I was a rule follower, like hardcore, and then I have my rebellious years, but you know, I always thought I had to play inside a certain set of guidelines, right. I thought that there was a certain definition of success. I thought that winning meant XYZ. And as I got older and the more I realized, and again, became exposed, surrounded myself with people that were doing things differently, creating their own lanes. I found myself getting so much more lit up by cheering for their successes than I was as I was looking at what I thought I should be striving for. And that to me kind of gave me that permission to go, you know what, it doesn't matter if you don't fit this mold perfectly, you bring all of these beautiful things and skills and talents and interests to the table. Lean into that because that's what's going to...number one, you're going to find success, right? It's like almost impossible to avoid it when you truly live into it and lean into it. Number two, you're going to be really happy, right? Like when you're not trying to please everybody else, when you can find those passions and monetize them that's even better. So that's, you know, really finding that healthy balance between what you know you need, what you want to have and then finding a way to make it your own. So, I love that. So, I'm just going to hang out with you and not follow the rules because...
[00:12:16.06] Jessica: Yeah, that sounds. Come on in. Join our community where we're all making our own rules and figuring it out as we go.
[00:12:23.00] Allison: I love it. And so, you also talk a lot about living an empowered life. And I think sometimes when people hear that, that can almost be triggering to them or it can feel like, but wait a second, that means I need to have no fear, or I need to be fearless. And so, can you talk about that concept and how that's not necessarily the case?
[00:12:42.08] Jessica: Absolutely. Yeah. This is so important because to live in...I think people think of living empowered as like, every day I'm doing big things and I'm not scared and I'm taking risk and yes, that may be true that I'm taking risks and I'm doing big things, but right now my husband and I are building a course, that's like a smaller course that came out of a membership that I ran and we're really building it out, leveling it up, releasing it for a lot more money to be available for like as a more expensive course, as a way to build an entirely new revenue stream in our business. And we're both scared. We don't know if it's going to work. It's going to work because I'm going to speak it into existence. And I know the value of it, but it's still this idea. This is a completely new territory for us. And we've invested in this program that's helping us sort of make sure we're doing everything right, even though we're both very business savvy. And to me that's living empowered. It's more... it's less about doing it fearlessly and more about just freaking doing it. And knowing that in the doing is how you're going to change your life.
[00:13:54.18] Allison: Well, and I love that too. And I think you also touched on you also investing in you to have the support, to know you're doing it the right way. And I think, whenever you do something the first time it's going to be scary, right? It's just natural, it's outside of your comfort zone, you haven't done it before, but then I guarantee the next time you go to do something else that's even more outside of what you've already been doing, you're going to have even more...it's almost like that confidence muscle that's just like flexing, it's like, it's okay, it's okay to feel this way, you just keep going, keep going, keep going, keep going. And I love that you just really encourage the audience to go for it because we talk about that all the time on this podcast of like, you just do something every single day. It doesn't have to be huge, right? Like Rome wasn't built in a day, it's about taking that daily action and making that commitment to continue to invest in you, to invest in your dreams because the world is going to keep turning. 30 days from now, 90 days from now, six months from now. And it's always like...what I always think of is like, would I rather look back and say, I learned a lesson through this, right? Say it doesn't go as well as I want it to go. Or did I just not even try. And every time I ask that question, I'm like, I am trying, like, let's go. So I love that you have that mentality too, because it can be scary but you've been able to create a business that has allowed you to really lean into all of your skills and talents, you help other people too, I mean, you're definitely influencing people by sharing your journey, and I think that's so powerful, so kudos to you for going forward and doing it yourself and living by example too. So, if anybody's looking for somebody to inspire them, you've got to check you out. So, how do we find you? So where should people go or how can they find out about this new course when it's all ready? Give us all the details.
[00:15:40.28] Jessica: Yeah, you will always find me on Instagram except for sometimes on Saturdays and Sundays, because I teach Instagram strategy and mindset. One of the biggest things is give yourself space. Instagram can be very overwhelming when you're managing it for a business. So, I'm always on Instagram @JessicaThiefels. You can go to my website, jessicathiefels.com, but any announcements like the book that's going to be republished, the other book that's coming out in December, the course, all of those things live on Instagram and that's where I share. I share so many...it's kind of like my diary and my way of working through my own lesson. So, as I'm moving through something, I'm sharing it with you so you can move through it too, because if I'm feeling it, someone else is probably feeling it too.
[00:16:27.25] Allison: Absolutely. And Instagram is like a full-time job. I swear, it's crazy, but yeah. Well, that's awesome. So, thank you so much for sharing that information and I absolutely love this next question we ask every single guest on our show who comes on about this, but when you think about people that are inspiring you or people that you've read their books, or you're following them, who lights you up? What do you recommend? Who do you recommend for our audience as well?
[00:16:56.11] Jessica: I am obsessed with manifestation babe. She is a total boss. She's a self-made multimillionaire. And she very much...and her partner, they're actually not married, but they both run her company together. And my husband and I run our company together and they have a lot of similar dreams and things that they're working toward together. They do a lot of travel. My husband and I, pre-COVID traveled the world for eight months while running our business and did a lot of travel outside of that. So, making, creating a life where we have lots of flexibility in travel and we're making a lot of money while doing very little, is a hundred percent what we're moving toward, and she very much embodies that. And I just think she's super authentic and yeah, I would highly recommend if you want to be inspired to just live a kick-ass life and manifest everything you've ever wanted. She's the one to follow.
[00:17:50.05] Allison: Go for it. Yeah. I'll be definitely doing that. So, I'm subscribing to all of that. Well, Jessica, thank you so much for being on the show today. I really enjoyed our conversation and good luck with your baby. I'm so excited for you congrats on all of your success.
[00:18:07.07] Jessica: Thank you so much. It was so great to be here and talk to everyone.
[00:18:10.29] Allison: Well, I hope you loved today's episode. And if you did, please go over to your favorite podcasting platform, and leave us a review. Also screenshot this episode and share it with your friends on social. And don't forget to tag @allisonwalshconsulting on Instagram to be entered in this week's giveaway. Remember, I believe in you one thousand percent. And my goal is that you do too. Until next time, take care, be well and keep chasing your dreams.