Updated: Oct 18, 2021
I feel SO blessed to have been able to spend time with the incredible Rha Goddess. I have to admit, I've been a major fan girl of hers since I read her book, The Calling, several years ago. It's one of those books that truly helps you make moves in your life and business, and I've been fascinated with her philosophy ever since.
Rha is the entrepreneurial soul coach behind hundreds of breakthrough change makers, cultural visionaries and social entrepreneurs. From multiple NY Times Bestsellers to multi-million dollar social enterprises, Rha’s unique methodology has empowered a new generation of conscious entrepreneurs to stay true, get paid, and do good. From the onset of her more than 30-year career as a cultural innovator, social impact strategist and creative change agent, Rha has drawn on the power of creativity, culture and community to move hearts, minds and policy.
To say it was an honor to speak with her is an understatement. I hope you enjoy her interview as much as I did and PLEASE share this with your friends. The world needs as much joy, inspiration and hope as it can get.
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Allison: Hello and welcome to the She Believes She Could podcast. I'm your host, Allison Walsh. I am so glad you're here. I'm a corporate exec, entrepreneur, coach, and mom of three, who is obsessed with all things related to mindset, goal setting, and leveling up your personal brand so you can go after opportunities that you never even thought possible. I live by the philosophy that the whole point of being alive is to evolve into the complete person you were intended to be. And I created this podcast to motivate and inspire you and give you actionable tips and advice for you to use as you chase and accomplish your goals. I've also had the chance to build an incredible network of successful leaders, entrepreneurs, impact makers, and world changers, who will also be sharing knowledge and words of wisdom. Remember, no dream is too big if it's matched with ambition and action. Most importantly, I believe in you 1000%, and my goal is that you can do. So sit back, relax, and grab your favorite note taking device, because it's time to fill up your mind and soul with positive vibes and advice to help you achieve your dreams. Now let's get to work. I am so excited to introduce you to Rha goddess. She is the entrepreneurial soul coach behind hundreds of breakthrough change makers, cultural visionaries, and social entrepreneurs. From multiple New York Times bestsellers to multi-million-dollar social enterprises, Rha's unique methodology has empowered a new generation of conscious entrepreneurs to stay true, get paid and do good. I am so excited for you to meet Rha. I know you'll recognize a couple of the people that we talk about. The intro to her book was written by the very well-known Gabby Bernstein. Rha is absolutely amazing, and I cannot wait for you to hear this episode. She pours her heart and soul into each and every minute, and I cannot wait for you to just soak it all up. So let's get to work. Rha, thank you so much for being on our show today. Would you mind just sharing a little bit more about yourself with our audience?
[00:01:59.13] Rha: Absolutely. First of all it is my joy to be here. So I am described often as an entrepreneurial soul coach, but who I really feel like I am a champion, and champion, as in verb, someone who really roots for people's greatness, someone who supports people in being able to arrive in their truest selves so that they can make their highest contributions. And so I call myself, also sometimes a doula, for your purpose and your calling and the work that we do at my company, Move the Crowd is all rooted in helping people really stay true.
[00:02:46.19] Allison: So how did you end up at this place, where you have the opportunity to be that champion for so many people, and you've worked with some incredible people over the course of your career. How did all this happen? How did you get here?
[00:03:02.19] Rha: I mean, one word is God, and again, we all have our own, what do we call it...source, creativity, love, or however, we want to describe it. For me, it was really divine intervention. I was, for many years, I've worked in the corporate world and then I've worked in a not-for-profit world. And I kind of had done all of those sort of roles that are easy to understand and check the box on. And at some point, God kind of came in and was like, I have a different plan for you. There's a different direction. There's a different course I want to take you. And I was like, thank you for sharing, God, but I'm going to stay right where I am. And of course, you know how it works, the first time you come, it’s a nudge, the second time you come, it's a little bit more of a push. Third time you come, maybe a shove, fourth time, maybe it's a little bit of a kick. And, I joke about that and say that I really did come to my purpose, kicking, and screaming, and I also believe that there's something about my own journey that enables me to really understand and have compassion for so many of us who want to bet on ourselves, but who struggle, right. And so I've had the sort of typical standard kinds of jobs and roles, and then I've had that road, you know, where you all see the path diverge and there's a little bit more dirt on that path, there's brush on that path. You have to kind of clear your own way, and I am the clear your own way path kind of girl. And I am the cheerleader for the clear your own makeup kind of girl, because I know that it's so much more enriching and rewarding.
[00:04:47.17] Allison: Oh, it is. And you know, I love the way that you really provide such a roadmap for people and a blueprint for them to follow, as far as, here's how to lean in to who you are, here's how to embrace it, here's how to love it, here's how to help make it thrive and really get in alignment with who you are and to become your best, highest truest self, and get paid and do good, right? Like all of the things.
[00:05:16.22] Rha: All the things.
[00:05:20.08] Allison: All the things you say, and I think especially now, like, I mean, so you wrote an amazing book called The Calling and we're going to talk about that a lot today, but I read the book the first time before the pandemic, and there was so much in there and it was so much valuable advice. And I did all the things, all the exercises, listened to the book, read the book, and then I did it again after the pandemic. And I'm like, this is even more relevant now, like people really betting on themselves. And I think we're seeing that so much now. And I know you love helping people do that, as do I, just, you know, get out of our own ways, and go for it and create that life that we want so much for ourselves, but would you mind sharing more around, like your L3 and really what that means and, and how you help others do that?
[00:06:09.17] Rha: Yeah. I mean, I think just, I want to underscore your wisdom in terms of this moment that we're in, you know, whether we're calling it...I don't even know if we can yet call it Allison post pandemic. You know, we're hearing about the great resignation and where people are leaving their jobs in droves, and just to kind of give people some perspective, in April alone, 4 million people quit their jobs, 4 million. We are in, what I like to call, the grand renegotiation, which means that we've had 18 months plus to think, and get clear, whether through hardship or breakdown or grand inspiration or breakthrough, we're clear about what we want, we're clear about what's important. And I do believe now more than ever, people are like, it's got to have meaning, it's got to be important. You know what I mean? Or you know what, it is time to bet on me, that dream, that vision, that inspiration, that book, that course, that, whatever it is that I've always been thinking about and dreaming about, now is the time more than ever before to really bet on me. And I think, as we're in this moment, now I'm thankful and humbled by the fact that people are finding the book because this is the blueprint and my intention for writing the book was about the blueprint. The L3 that you're referring to is live, love, lead. And there is a process I take you through in the book to help you develop what I call your live, love, lead declaration. And these become the foundation for the next chapter of whatever it is that you want to accomplish. Right? So I believe that success is about alignment and the more that we are trued up to what matters to us, the more that we're trued up to our unique combination of talents and gifts, and the more that we're trued up to that passionate impulse that guides us towards the opportunities and challenges that we most want to address on behalf of our humanity, the more we align with those things, the more in my experience, success is inevitable. And so your live, your love and your lead is all about what is important to you, what it is that you're here to bring, and what it is that you truly want to impact or effect in the world.
[00:08:34.17] Allison: Well, I love it. Thank you for expanding on all of that. And, I have to share...So the first time that I read the book, I spend a lot of time on the road, but pre-pandemic, right, traveling in between our different sites and doing a lot of different things, and I've got a long history in the behavioural health world, largely in part to my own story. And I struggled with an eating disorder when I was in high school and it became my mission to help other people. And that really was my entry point into behavioural health and working in the industry for so long. And there's a story, spoiler alert for anybody that's going to read the book, there's a story in your book about a young lady named Ashley, who is at one of your workshops and is struggling because she's out of alignment, right, she loves what she's done. She's also in recovery for an eating disorder. It's very much defined who she is in her career. And Rha, while I was listening to the book as I'm driving down the turnpike and the moment that I'm listening to this...and I still think about this and I get goosebumps because I was so... I had such a similar experience, at that moment of like, at that point, I felt like I was out of alignment, my old career and my old... just the way I recognize myself and really placed a lot of value, I felt I had done so much good, but I needed to shift. I was at that pivotal time and I'm crying on the turnpike and I'm like, oh my gosh, you know, when something comes into your life, at an amazing time, at a pivotal time, and I will never forget that. I just felt like the words in your book were just speaking directly to my soul and I got to work and I worked on like, okay, well, how do I allow myself to evolve now? How do I give honour to everything that I've done before, but really transition into who I want to be now? And so I just still...and I listened to it the second time, and I'm still bawling like a baby, but you have so many stories in here. And I think that's what's so great, is that no matter where you are in your journey, there's so much value in this book because there are so many points of connectivity. So can we talk about some of the other amazing things that you have in this book? I mean, you talk about blocks and you talk about how do we get out of our own way. Can we spend some time on that too?
[00:11:00.12] Rha: Yes, and I do want to, first of all, just thank you. And I remember vividly, the interaction with Ashley that you're speaking to. And I think this whole conversation for us, especially as women, this is a season of permission. And I just want to name that, we're in a gear, every gear with the crowd, we observe an annual theme and we do work as a community all through the year related to the theme. And 2021 is about permission. And our theme this year is permission granted, new life, new liberty. And it was very specific to recognizing that we have just come out of 18 months of unprecedented, I don't even know what we call it up, ending, shaping, and baking, whatever, you know what I mean, however, we'd want to describe it...Crisis, opportunity, unprecedented. Can we now give ourselves permission to sift and sort, right? Like, what worked, what doesn't, what's great, what's not, where am I now, versus where was I six months ago or eight months ago. But when I think this permission to grow and evolve, Alison, is one of the things that I know so many women struggle with, especially when we're really great at what we've done, which is most of us, if not all of us, we do know there's a way that we care. And because we care, we bring our full heart and soul to what it is that we do. It's just something in the DNA of who we are and that it can be hard to leave. It can be hard to shift. It can be hard to transform. It can be hard to change, even though we know inside, we are so ready for what's next. So I just wanted to underscore that and say that for me, her story was so important because it's one of those places that I often see us get stuck.
[00:12:52.08] Allison: It's easy. It's easy to hold on. And it's safe. And it's comfy, and it's in the comfort zone. And you know, it's kind of a lather, rinse, repeat. It can be just on autopilot, but we're not meant to live on autopilot. We're meant to evolve.
[00:13:06.22] Rha: Yeah. And we do have to be willing as a practice to engage that, which is uncomfortable, if we want to grow, if you want to reach your full potential, if we want to feel that expansive vision and the energy that surrounds us all the time. I've never met anyone who hasn't said, me, oh, I'm done, I don't need anything else. Every single soul that I interact with says, I know I'm here for more, I know I'm here to do more, I know I'm here to be more. And that is the nature of our souls. Our souls want to grow and evolve and experience ourselves at our highest levels. And that changes every day because we change every day. We're not who we were yesterday, we're not who we were five minutes ago. And the stories in the book...it's really funny because when I was working on the book with my publisher, they were like 40. I was like, I want, no matter where you are in your journey, I wanted you to see yourself, whatever your background, whatever your orientation, whatever your stage in life, whatever your history growing up, wherever you've been, whatever you've done, I just want you to know that it's possible for you. It just is. And I think sometimes we see great things happen and we see miracles unfold and we go, oh, that's awesome for that person. Or I believe it's possible in general. But a lot of us don't go, I believe it's possible for me. And I just want you to know through all of the stories that I share, that they are you.
[00:14:54.08] Allison: They're so good. And I mentioned one of them, but there's 39 others that are just phenomenal. And you're able to weave through lived experiences that paint the picture of a lot of really valuable lessons. And I love a book that gives so many awesome takeaways and things that you can put into action right away, and advice that helps you move through or around the blocks that you've got. And so can we talk more about like some of the common things that you see or that you've seen over the course of your career, working with people, like we do get in our way, right. We talked about, you know, first of all, not giving ourselves permission, but like...
[00:15:38.06] Rha: Despite our best intentions, I mean, I wrote the book and really structured the book in response to what had been the three most common roadblocks I saw, to people being willing to say yes to their full potential, being willing to say yes to their purpose and their calling. And so the first question that came up all the time was who am I? And this has everything to do with the way that we see ourselves, what we think is possible for us or not possible for us, what we think we're capable of, or not capable of, what we believe we're worthy of, or not worthy of. And we spend a lot of time, you guys, in our hearts, minds and spirits. Sometimes we're aware of it, sometimes we're not even aware of the conversations that are running in the background, about whether or not we believe we're enough, or whether or not we believe we can do it, or whether or not we believe that people will show up for little old us. You know what I mean? Like all of those conversations. And so the first part of the book, the stay true part of the book, talks about the importance of us developing and cultivating a loving and inspiring and empowering relationship with ourselves. The most important relationship we can ever be in is the one with ourselves. And yet often that's the one that is last on the list. We take care of everybody else. We tend to our babies, we take care of our beloved partners, our extended families, our parents, for many of us, if our parents are elderly or aging, we're there, our nieces our nephews, we're there, right? Our fellow co-workers, we're there. And we don't carve that sacred time to be in intimate and loving and nurturing relationships with ourselves. And we are the foundation of anything you want to do and anything you want to have. And so the first part of the book really answers that question, who am I, and supports you in saying like, okay, when I asked myself, who am I, what are the answers that really inspire me and encourage me and motivate me? And what are the ways in which I'm answering that question that hinder me, that limit me, that discourage me, that keep me stuck, or small, or safe. So we go there, and I'll talk a little bit about the six-step protocol in a minute after I kind of walk you through the three questions. I'll talk about the ways to sign, tut the second question, of course I get, and this is usually the number one deterrent as to why we pursue or don't pursue our passion or purpose, which is, how am I going to pay the rent. That's all nice and wonderful and great it, and yes, I had this vision for wanting to work with young women, or I had this dream of being able to take women through these phenomenal transformative retreats, but you know, it's always the but, I've got a family to feed, I've got a mortgage to pay. Do you know what I mean? Right. I've got to eat and how can I do this? Or I don't believe I can do this and sustain myself financially, so I back burner it, and in that second section of the book, I really go deep in your get paid. This is the get paid section, y'all. And I really talk about how the offering, the sacred proposition that you have to offer to the planet, is the thing that opens the door to wealth beyond what you can imagine. And it really is an extension of your love. We talk a lot about, do what you love, or how do we do what we love, or can I even do what I love, but the truth is, when you are in love with what you're offering and bringing to the world, you are a magnet for anything and everything that you want. I see you're nodding your head.
[00:20:06.26] Allison: I am.
[00:20:09.23] Rha: What are you hearing...
[00:20:13.16] Allison: That's so true. And, because on the get paid part, I think there's a couple of things and you talk about, just like your money mindset and your approach to it and, and living, not in this lack mentality, but in this mentality of abundance. And I can resonate so much with this because...and I know like my own money story with it, and I spent so many years on the non-profit and I must not be able to earn a good living by doing good. It's all sacrifices, it's all lack. And it's like, actually you can find other ways to monetize your gifts and your skills. And, as I've evolved and really even, that whole story has evolved too and charging what you're worth, and making sure, and you're right, you are a magnet when you get in alignment, and you get out of your own way and you remove those blocks and you allow it in, I mean, I've got some unbelievable clients right now that if I hadn't gotten out of my own way, I wouldn't have attracted them. And that's what I'm so grateful for, resources like this, that just really kind of wake you up and say, move.
[00:21:26.26] Rha: When we talk about money, I want to underscore just what you're saying, because when we talk about money, we often think it's the mechanics, and listen, financial literacy is important. So I want to say that I take nothing away from all of the phenomenal education about saving and spending and investing, and you need it. We all need it. But my experience is, where people struggle is less about the mechanics and much more about the heart, being willing to love and be loved. And I want to underscore the be loved part, right? Because I also think that, for so many of us, the loving, especially the women, the loving comes easy, we know how to love up on you, boy, like none other, especially, my mom was out there, you know, but the being loved part, the letting people honour us, acknowledge us, see us, uplift us, value us, right. Pay us, reward us, praise us, celebrate us. That's my experience, where the biggest growing edge is.
[00:22:58.02] Allison: That's so powerful.
[00:22:59.29] Rha: And so we go into this, right in the book, we go deep into this. So not only how do we look at what you are being invited to maybe let go or reckon with, but also like, how do you create a vision? And then how do you align with the vision in a way that authentically you? Because that's the other thing, we sometimes believe, well, I can do that, but I have to be somebody else. Or I have to give up my freedom and slave in ways that I don't want. I want to be there for my kids. I want to be there for my partner. I want to be...you know what I mean? And so we have all of these beliefs about what we have to trade in order to be wealthy. And when I say wealthy, I'm not just talking about material money, I'm talking about the sense of fullness, the sense of fulfillment really, where we're just like, wow, this is my life. Wow. I get to do this. Wow, people pay me to do this. How incredible is that.
[00:24:04.15] Allison: Hey, there it's Alison. And I want to invite you to apply to Elevate. Elevate is my premier network and six-month coaching program for ambitious women who are ready to accelerate their impact, create unstoppable momentum and level up so they can create the businesses, careers, and lives of their dreams. It's no secret that we get in our way far more often than we should. We allow our excuses to become louder than our why. And we cancel on ourselves, which can easily become the reason that we aren't living up to our highest potential. My mission is to help you accomplish goals that you never thought possible for yourself, whether you're launching a side hustle, investing in your personal brand, finally working on a passion project, or scaling your business. I am here to be by your side, cheering you on and supporting you every step of the way. My secret weapon is execution and helping my clients dream bigger than ever before. It's amazing what happens when we start believing in what we deserve. And when we trust our abilities, create a plan, and ultimately execute, that's when the magic happens. And that's exactly what we're going to be doing in Elevate. My clients will tell you that clarity, action, and marketing are my superpowers, and my ability to get you across the finish line, with whatever you're working on, will get you results. But most importantly, it will give you the confidence to once again, elevate your own goals and expectations over and over and over again, so you get the maximum results that you're looking for. Now, this community is by invitation only, and will only include those that are committed to getting the results they've been dreaming about. You don't have to have it all figured out. You just have to be willing to give yourself a try. I'll create the space and provide a supportive, uplifting community, filled with women that are cheering each other on. I'll get you connected with all the right people and resources. I'll teach you what you need to know to help you get to that next level. And then we'll dream bigger together, because action leads to momentum and momentum allows you to elevate higher than you ever thought possible. If you're ready to make a commitment to yourself and to your goals, so that 2022 can be a year filled with abundance and beautiful results, head to AllisonWalshconsulting.com/elevate to apply. That's AllisonWalshconsulting.com/elevate. I hope to see you there. Bye-bye.
Alisson: I love that. And really being able to do good in the world right, and I think one of the things that really resonated with me, and I've heard you talk about is like, if you don't step into this, you're not allowing other people to benefit from your gifts. Like you've got to do this for you. Like the world needs you. They need the special gifts that you have, and they need to be able to connect with you. And you've got so much value. And I think that's the other thing, is that I see so many people struggle with, is that they don't necessarily have the confidence to do it yet. Or they're scared of doing it for the first time, getting out in front, getting visible, articulating what they want and maybe they don't have that supportive circle around them, but they know their life is meant for so much more and or whatever those fears are. And I love that you have really spent a lot of time working with people and sharing that message around the fear piece, because I think 99% of the time, we're the only ones getting in our way of what's next. It really is.
[00:27:26.18] Rha: Yeah. And fear is fascinating for me. And I want you all to know that I'm not someone that teaches people to overcome their fears. I'm someone that teaches people to dance with their fear in service and honour to what's greater. Do you know what I mean? And I say that because I think so much of what happens is we fight our fear, as opposed to embrace. I want you all to know that anytime you feel afraid, it just means that it matters to you. And it's important. Right? And this third question, right? So we talked about the first one, who am I, the second one, how am I going to pay the rent? This third one, which is where the do good comes into play is, can I really matter? And I believe at a fundamental level, all we really want to do this matter. I think that contribution is a human need. We need to make a difference. It's why we show up in all the ways that we show up. It's why we share in all the ways that we share. It's why we doing all the things that we do, whether it's our famous grandmother's pancake recipe, or whether it's...you know what I mean? It's working to create a space and environment where young women can feel greater about who they are, raise their self-esteem, whatever, all of those different ways that we contribute, be they formal or informal. We have a need to contribute. We have a need to know that we are not living in vain. And our desire to do good is at the core of who we are. Every single one of us, for some of us it's been blocked, for some of us, it's been challenged, for others of us, it's been held hostage if we are survivors of trauma. But the truth is, that at the core of who we are, and at the core of what we are, is a desire of want and need to do good, to leave things better than we found it, to touch the lives of other people, to make our world better. And it's like, if you don't bring it, we don't get it. You guys, we get the world we decide we get. We get the world we say it is. And if we knew that and truly believed that we're making a difference every single day, whether we see it or not, and that it's integral to who we are to make that difference, why wouldn't we want to do it.
[00:30:08.20] Allison: I love it. I love it. I could just soak it up all day long, Rha. You can just keep telling me. It's so good. So, to continue on in the conversation of the buck, you talk about these three areas, but then you also talk about all these different steps that we can take and how we can actually make it happen. So can we spend a little bit of time there?
[00:30:29.00] Rha: Yeah. So this is really a blueprint and I had a beautiful conversation with someone who said to me, when they read the book, they said, wow, you didn't hold anything back. And I was like, absolutely not. The intention and the desire in writing the book was to give you a step-by-step practical blueprint to get from where you are, to wherever it is that you want to be. And so I shared the sections, the stay true, the get paid, the do good, which are the three fundamental shifts. So in the stay true, we go from victim to vision, from being sort of at the mercy of, to a conscious, active shaper in the life and the reality that we want. In the get paid, we go from scarcity to abundance, real abundance, and I walk you step by step, you all, on how to actually create an abundant mindset and then an abundant reality. And then the third shift, in the do good section is about moving from fear to love, because when we're in love...And I said to you, well, I don't teach you to transform your fear in the sense of you'll never have fear, but I teach you how to recognize that your fear is a portal to your love, and that you can walk through your fear and actually use it as a guidepost for what matters to you, what's important to you, what wants to be expressed through you, right? So we befriend it and we transmuted and we stand in love, which is true to who we are. And in each section, there is a six-step process that we go through. The first step is recognition and awareness because if you can't see it, there's nothing you can do about it. Second step is acceptance, which is where we get to tell the truth about where we are part of the solution and where we part of the problem. So this is where we get to kind of go, okay, I am getting me my own way, right? Or this is working and this is not working and we really get to do that sifting and sorting. Step three forgiveness. And I teach you in the book how to develop a practice for forgiveness, because so much of what often holds us back is our inability to let go of other things that may astound and that keep us from all of the blessings and all of the goodness and all of the great things that want to happen to and through us. So we learn how to forgive. And we do it three times. In other words, you meet forgiveness, you stay true, you get paid, and you So important steps for re-imagining, re-envisioning, where is it that we want to go? What is it that we want to believe? Who is it that we want to be? What is it that we want to do? And so in each section, there's the opportunity to reimagine and re-envision. From re-envisioning we move to align right, action. So it's not enough for us to just be efficient. We now need to show up, consistent with the new speaking, with the new language and we get to do it as a practice, over and over again. So I talk in depth about the power of what we practice, what we do over and over again. And I say, practice makes possible, not about perfect, practice makes possible. And when we show up, the more times we show up, the more opportunities we give the universe to give us what we want, the more opportunities we give people who want to be served by us to find us, so this practicing through align right, action, and then step six celebration. We could do a whole book, Allison, just on celebration. We don't celebrate enough. And I mean, I don't care how big or how small, we are taking steps every single day to make our lives better. And I wonder how many of us at the end of the day, just go, you know what, great job. I saw you being patient with your little one who was having a meltdown in the Piggly Wiggly. I saw you take that extra time to make sure that that client or that customer got what they needed. I saw you have your bosses back around a big presentation. I saw...you know what I mean. I saw you stay and really help your partner, because they had a big meeting or they had a big presentation, all the way, every single day that we are moving forward, that we are being our purpose and that we are making that difference, and that we are personally growing at getting better. So celebration is that final step. And then as we go to the next level, we start over again.
[00:35:54.23] Allison: I love your steps. It flows and it makes sense. And I will again champion the celebration piece because we don't pause and celebrate ourselves because it's almost as if we skip it. And we're like, okay, what's next. And, even if you're doing the things, you're showing up consistently, I believe in that too, consistency compounds, the more you do it, the more you do it. And it just continues to build. But I, noticed myself, especially during the pandemic, and I don't know if it's because we were home, because you know, my husband and I we used to go out to dinner. We'd do all these things. And finally I'm like, we have to do something, right. Like, I don't care if we go on a little walk around the walk by ourselves, we have to celebrate these milestones because we're working hard. We're on this journey, we're accomplishing goals or learning from things that maybe didn't pan out the way that they wanted to, because another door was supposed to open. We have to celebrate all of it. And it's so easy to get caught on the hamster wheel as we chase that next level or that next accomplishment, where, there's all the things in between. And we do need to pat ourselves on the back and say, you're doing a really good job, especially now with all the things.
[00:37:05.29] Rha: And it's amazing. I mean, at least, for me, Allison, the last 18 months, I'm like, you know what, I don't need much, it really is the simple things. And I think because sometimes things are so simple, or they come so easy or they don't require all our blood and all our sweat and all our tears, we take them for granted. But the magic is really in those little things, that little extra step that we take is what ultimately becomes the game changer. And so our capacity to see that, to recognize that, to honour that and to celebrate that, that's like everything.
[00:37:49.26] Allison: Oh, I love that. I love that. And you talk about in the book, your greatest hits, right? Like the narrative in our heads that's creeping back up. So, you know, sometimes we tell ourselves like, oh, if it's easy, it must not be the best or it must not be my highest self or, but sometimes that's most of your gifts, right? Sometimes your gifts are what comes the most natural to you. And yes, you work on them, you refine them, you enrich them, you love on them too, but don't fight it.
[00:38:22.10] Rha: Absolutely. Yes. Our genius often just flows and our opportunity to see ourselves, that's why I start with the, who are you? I start with it in the stay true, because the more that we can truly start to see the truth of who we are, the more the self-love, the more the self-appreciate, you know what I mean? You know what, actually, I am kind of a little bit amazing over here and I might need to start taking responsibility for that.
[00:38:58.23] Allison: Yeah. Don't be afraid to shine bright like the diamond you are, don't be afraid to be amazing. I love that. So, well, I could talk to you like literally all day, but I am so grateful for the time that we've had. And one of the questions that I love to ask all of our phenomenal guests that come on the show is who inspires you? What are you reading? Or who are you following that just really fills up your soul?
[00:39:22.17] Rha: Yeah. Wow. So I feel like I'm blessed and that I'm inspired all the time. You know what I mean? And, by life and by people I know and people I don't know. Right now I'm reading a few things. So one, I'm deeply in love with, and have had the privilege to be mentored by an incredible woman by the name of Barbara Huson. And Barbara is a money... I'm going to call her a money shaman. A money expert, a money genius. She's one of the foremost, kind of authoritative voices as it relates to women and wealth. And Barbara has a new book out called Rewire for Wealth. And she literally marries the intersection of neuroscience with a course in miracles and wealth principles. And I just want to say to you all that this book is a must read. I've had the privilege to be encouraged by Barbara for the last 10 years. She's completely transformed my life and my work. And so it's her latest and greatest. I read everything, and she's got a number of books. Your Prince Charming isn't coming, is one of her books. Overcoming, Underearning is her first one. She's got a book called Sacred Success, and Secrets of Six-Figure Women, like just get the whole...So I'm reading Barbara's latest and greatest right now. I'm also reading DR Bruce Perry's book with Oprah Winfrey called, What Happened to You. I believe, Allison, that we're in a...and you know this book because of your work and you hear we're in a moment where we're finally starting to really talk about Trump and the impact on so many of us and what we've journeyed through, and the new recognition that is starting to come to the fore. And DR Perry has been doing this work for almost four decades. And there are other phenomenal, great men, and others who have just been in the conversation of the way our brains work and the way our body chemistry operates, and our ability to understand the way our environment and our experiences, especially in our formative years, stay with us and wire the way that we think and the way that we operate, and the choices that we make and our opportunity and the possibility to heal that and transform that and take back our capacity to love, and parent ourselves, is also part of this new evolution. And I'm working on the second book now, which is about ambition, and I probably will talk more about it, but, maybe when I come back another time, but at the core of it is how do we heal trauma? How do we, and how do we recognize where our ambition is guided and driven by the negative things that have happened to us, versus where it's guided and driven by inspiration and motivation and spirit and all of the other wonderful things that also move and motivate us. And so, that book is incredible. So I highly recommend that book, and then the last sort of person or name who I really feel is moving the world in a really interesting way is another beloved good friend of mine, Niyc Pidgeon. And Nick is also about to come out with a book and it's related to positive psychology and this whole idea of, trauma and high-performance, and this way that we start to really understand for us overachievers, all of like what's really in there and what are the ways in which we have made unbelievable lemonade from lemons. And so that's just some of the people.
[00:43:12.05] Allison: Oh, I am going to get all of them because I love to read. And I am fascinated by this intersection of trauma and high-performance and how trauma impacts life. And it is so interesting and just the work over the last 20 years that I've been doing. And even, that's everything I've done in the behavioural health world and I work with these amazing women, and there's always some trauma there, and giving themselves permission to heal, too. We talk about permission. You don't have to be at rock bottom. You don't have to be in the depths of an addiction or in a horrible situation to actually take the steps to heal yourself. And when I see women, men, everyone, do the work for themselves, the transformation that happens in their lives, and how they're able to channel that energy is so incredible. And I can speak from personal experience. I had to do a lot of work, right. A lot to be healed, right. And now I can so clearly see that in others, and my hope and my dream is that everybody that has ever experienced anything negative in their lives has that opportunity to heal and has that opportunity to work with healers, whatever that looks like for them. Whether it's a therapist, whether it's a coach, whether it's a mentor, I don't care, but get help, right? Because it can be resolved and you can live a beautiful, full life where you're not trapped in it. And that's so important. So those are amazing suggestions. And I can't wait for your next book., I love this one. And you know, I had the chance to write an article for Forbes and this book was on it. I am obsessed with this one. I want everybody to get a copy now, read it, love it, highlight it, do the work. Oh, it's so powerful, Rha. And I am just so grateful for this time today. And if people are listening right now and they are just absolutely drinking the Kool-Aid, where do they find you? Because I'm sure there's everybody that's listening right now is like, I need Rha my life.
[00:45:24.08] Rha: I love you all. I'm on all of the channels, @rhagoddess, right. And then of course the book is available everywhere. All of your major retail outlets. And, I do want to say, if you all have local bookstores, please do support your mom and pops as well as the big mama's and Papa's which we appreciate, but you can get it anywhere, audible or Amazon or all of the other places, and then, @movethecrowd.me and please reach out to us and just know that in the book we have resources. So also, if you open the book, there's a link and literally we have sites that's just dedicated to all the resources because I want you to have it. I promised you, I hold nothing back. You can come and you can download. You get the worksheets, the tips, the graphics, the things you want to put on your wall, you can do the book, lots of different ways.
[00:46:18.04] Allison: And the portal you built is amazing and you just keep enriching it too. It's like you wrote this a while ago, this is not a new release. And you just keep adding and adding and adding and adding value to everyone that you serve. And I am just so grateful for the time that we got to spend today, Rha. And thank you so much for the work that you do and for moving the crowd and for taking this all with you and just showing us the way and giving us the tools to live our most beautiful lives. So thank you so much for being on the show today.
[00:46:48.07] Rha: Thank you, my joy, Alison, and thank you for all the incredible work that you do. So appreciate it.
[00:46:54.20] Allison: Thank you. I hope you loved every second of the time that I spent with Rha today. She's so incredible. And I am just so grateful, thankful, blessed that I had the chance to talk to her and I could have just talked to her all day long. So if you loved this episode as much as I did, please share it with your friends. We all need inspiration, motivation, and joy in our lives. And Rha did an amazing job at filling up our cups today. So please share it. If you screenshot it and share it in your stories on Instagram, I would love for you to tag us. And so you can also be entered to win this week's giveaway. So please do that. And don't forget to check out Elevate if it's something that you're interested in. I would absolutely love for you to apply. At that point we'll jump on a call, we can talk about it and see if it's a good fit for you. So please do that. And don't forget to join the She Believes She Could community on Facebook. That is a high vibe community of women who are cheering each other on and supporting each other every step of the way. So I hope you enjoyed today. I appreciate you. And remember that I believe in you 1000% and my goal is that you do too. Take care and have a great day. Bye-bye